11 Conversations Every Couple Needs to Have
Most couples who come to see me aren’t struggling because they don’t love each other.
They’re struggling because there are conversations they’ve never had — about money, about conflict, about what they each actually need, about the future they’re each imagining. Not because they were avoiding them deliberately. Just because nobody ever told them these conversations needed to happen, and life got busy, and it was easier to assume they were on the same page.
The 11 Conversations Every Couple Needs to Have course was built for couples who want to get ahead of that — who want to be intentional about what they’re building before the unspoken things become problems.
What the course actually covers
The course is built around eleven essential conversations — the ones that research consistently shows matter most for relationship health and longevity.
Not surface-level conversations. The real ones. The kind most couples either avoid entirely or stumble into sideways during an argument.
Topics include communication styles and how you each handle conflict, money and what it means to each of you, intimacy and connection, roles and expectations — who does what and whether those assumptions are actually shared, family of origin and what you’re each bringing from your history, values and beliefs, and the vision you each have for your shared future.
The course also includes the PREPARE/ENRICH relationship assessment — one of the most widely researched relationship tools in the world, used with over three million couples. Each partner completes it independently and the results generate a personalised report mapping your specific strengths and growth areas as a couple. It gives you a concrete, research-based starting point for the conversations rather than just guessing at what’s worth talking about.
Who this is for
This course is for couples who are moving in together, getting engaged, recently married, or simply wanting to invest in their relationship before things get hard rather than after.
It’s also for couples who are generally doing well but sense there are conversations they’ve been circling around without quite having — and want a structured way to actually have them.
It’s self-paced, which means you work through it at whatever rhythm fits your life. Some couples move through it quickly. Others spread it over several weeks and let the conversations breathe. Either way works.
If your relationship is currently in crisis or you’re navigating significant conflict, couples counselling is probably a better starting point than a self-paced course. But if things are generally solid and you want to build something intentional on top of that foundation — this is what the course is for.
Why this matters
Most of us put more preparation into planning a wedding than preparing for a marriage.
That’s not a criticism — it’s just what our culture models. And it means that most couples arrive at one of the biggest commitments of their lives without ever having talked openly about the things that tend to matter most.
The couples who do well long-term aren’t the ones who never struggle. They’re the ones who’ve built enough shared understanding and communication skill that when things get hard — and they will, because that’s just relationships — they can navigate it without it threatening everything they’ve built.
These eleven conversations are a way of building that foundation deliberately. Before you need it.
What’s included
The course includes eleven video lessons, each covering one essential conversation topic. A couples workbook with exercises and reflection prompts to work through together. The PREPARE/ENRICH relationship assessment for both partners. And access to a private community.
The course is $249 CAD and is entirely self-paced — you have ongoing access once you enrol.
A note on this as a gift
The course also works beautifully as an engagement gift or wedding gift — something genuinely useful rather than another item for the registry. If you’d like to give it as a gift, get in touch directly at jill@communicatingwell.com and I can arrange it.
You can enrol directly at communicatingwell.uteach.io. If you have questions about whether the course is the right fit for you and your partner, feel free to reach out — I’m happy to have a quick conversation about it.
