Relationship Counselling (Individuals & Couples)
Couples sessions are in-person in Squamish only
Relationships don’t usually fall apart all at once. It’s more often something that repeats.
The same conversations that don’t quite land. The same reactions that show up again. Moments where you feel close — and then suddenly not.
You might find yourself thinking: Why does this keep happening between us? Or: Why do I keep reacting this way?
If something in your relationship — or in how you show up in relationships — keeps circling back, couples counselling or relationship therapy can help you understand what’s driving it and start to shift it.
When something isn’t quite working
This can show up in different ways.
As a couple, it might look like:
- getting pulled into the same conflict, again
- feeling misunderstood, even when you’re trying
- distance creeping in where there used to be ease
As an individual, it might look like:
- noticing patterns across relationships that keep repeating
- reacting in ways that don’t feel like you
- feeling unsure how to shift something, even when you can see it
Often there’s a sense that something deeper is driving it — but it’s hard to name.
What we actually look at
We’re not just looking at what you argue about — but how it happens.
The tone. The timing. What each of you hears versus what was intended. The moment things shift from connected to distant — and what’s happening just before that.
We slow things down enough to notice what triggers a reaction, how quickly things escalate or shut down, what’s happening in your body in those moments, and the meaning each of you is making about the other — often without realising it.
This is where patterns live — and where they start to become clearer.
How I work
We’ll look at patterns between you — and also what each of you brings into those patterns.
That includes how you learned to do relationships growing up — the attachment patterns that shape how you connect, ask for things, and handle closeness or distance. How you respond when something feels uncomfortable or uncertain. The beliefs and stories that get activated in certain moments. And how you hold your own needs while staying in relationship with someone else — less about rules, and more about staying connected to yourself.
I draw from approaches including Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and the Bader-Pearson Developmental Model — but the work isn’t about applying a formula. It’s about understanding what’s actually happening between you, and finding a way through that fits.
We’ll also build some structure around how you talk about difficult things — so you’re not just reacting in the moment, but have a way to stay in the conversation.
Because conflict isn’t the problem. Avoiding it — or getting overwhelmed by it — is what tends to create distance.
What tends to get in the way
In most relationships, what gets in the way isn’t a lack of caring. It’s the patterns that run underneath — reacting quickly instead of getting curious, fear of losing the other person or losing yourself, difficulty expressing needs without feeling exposed, or getting pulled into familiar roles without quite knowing how you got there.
Often, the very things that drew you to each other at the beginning start to become points of friction later on.
Without understanding the pattern, it can feel personal. Or confusing. Or like something is wrong with the relationship itself.
When usually, it’s just a pattern. And patterns can change.
What begins to shift
As we work this way, people often notice:
- less getting pulled into the same arguments
- more awareness of what’s happening in the moment — before things escalate
- a different way of talking about difficult things
- more ability to stay connected, even when there’s tension
Not because conflict disappears — but because you’re no longer stuck in the same cycle with it.
When You’re Ready
If something here resonates, you’re welcome to reach out — whether you’re ready to book or just want to get a sense of whether this might be a good fit.
You can book a session directly, or start with a free 15-minute phone consultation — no commitment required.
I offer:
- Couples counselling — in person in Squamish only
- Individual counselling for relationship patterns — in person in Squamish and online across British Columbia
Please note: I work best with couples who are experiencing relational patterns, communication difficulties, or disconnection — rather than high conflict or crisis situations. If you’re unsure whether this is the right fit, feel free to reach out and we can figure that out together.
If you’re approaching a bigger commitment and want to build a strong foundation before patterns take hold, take a look at the premarital counselling page.